Marriage changes everything. Everything. Your finance, your body, your appearance, your time, your life priority, your helot, your economy, your family. Every single thing you had you knew and you can resist.
I stay with my name cause I hate patriarchy, but one thing that affect me, my partner vice versa is our intellectuality and scoup of research.
I, historian, become so much aware about how environment factors that shaped or contested the politics surroundings meanwhile my husband now is digging more into history of his research location. Maybe because we talked so much about our work, we engage and we love our field very much. Maybe?